Saturday, July 23, 2011

A Week Away

It's getting better.  And harder.  I'm with my Mom now and will be here another week and a half or so.  It's so good to be here with her, and be able to go in and out of talking about missing him.  We talk, and it makes it more real and it's a little easier to accept.  But it's still hard to believe. 

He's been gone a week now, and I can't really pretend he's out the store anymore.  I mean, that's what it felt like at first, like, "Where's Dad?" and the answer could be, "Oh, he's out in the garage," or "Oh, he's out at the store and will be back in a couple hours."  It's getting harder for my unconscious to pretend that.

Not enough people have sent flowers, and that pisses us off.  When I say us, I mean me and my younger sister.  Dad was beloved by a lot of people, in the family and in this community.  Some of them have stopped by and been very sweet, and I guess I have to focus on that. 

One man I called started crying on the phone when I told him.  It broke my heart, but it also warmed my heart to hear how much Dad had meant to this friend.

I guess I'm not in shock anymore, and it's starting to sink in that he's not coming back.  I'm glad he's not in pain anymore. 

Thanks to the peeps who left me comforting comments, I reallly appreciate it.  People react weirdly to death.  Someone who I thought I was close to didn't even call, but sent an impersonal card, which really hurt.  But other people know just what you need and are very thoughtful, and I'm grateful for those people. 

4 comments:

Parabolic Muse said...

Everyone does behave differently. Some people are actually afraid they are drawing too much attention to themselves to send a lot or reach out in more than a cursory way. Or, they feel as though you have enough going on, you don't need more flowers/cards/gifts/calls to get in the way of all the things you must do and don't want to. Some people are just afraid of what this means about their own mortality and don't want to deal at all. Some people are with you every minute, until you almost feel guilty asking them to leave you be, so you can grieve. The bottom line is, this is about your mom and you and being a family and you are so good to be there with her and she with you. It takes so long to come to realization. We sometimes need support more a week or two later than immediately.

love. C

Unknown said...

Oh Carrie, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I just was wandering the internets and checked your blog....I'm so glad I did!!! I'm so sorry to hear it was so sudden. That must have been a terrible shock. I hope your Mom is doing ok and that you are, too. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts, dear friend. xoxxox Carrie

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